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What makes you different?

15.06.2025 11:02

What makes you different?

I always yearned to go for government jobs because I had a few relatives already into it and doing well with money and security. And here is me, with an arts background, uncertain about what to choose.

Can you make it?

Experiences: What has happened to me? Have I led a normal life with two parents and two siblings? Yes. Breakups I’ve had. Friends I’ve made. School I have attended. Guides I’ve met. Places I’ve been.

I’m wondering about attachment and transference with the therapist and the idea of escape and fantasy? How much do you think your strong feelings, constant thoughts, desires to be with your therapist are a way to escape from your present life? I wonder if the transference serves another purpose than to show us our wounds and/or past experiences, but is a present coping strategy for managing what we don’t want to face (even if unconsciously) in the present—-current relationships, life circumstances, etc. Can anyone relate to this concept of escape in relation to their therapy relationship? How does this play out for you?

He would have experienced the miracle called light. Maybe he got better food to eat. Then he got wounded. Then in search of balm, he travaled to the wilderness and found a party of rats, eaten to its heart’s content and danced the night out.

Indeed, a number of other factors contribute to your uniqueness, but that’s for you to introspect.

Without experiments, is life worth it.

Where can Ukrainians go if they cannot have shelter and heating this winter?

"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken." - Oscar Wilde

Even if that means disappointing your parents and teachers for some time, but believe you’ll eventually make them feel proud.

So, keep on experimenting.

Why do I (45, male) feel like I'm crushing on a girl (19, female)?

Yes, I was not at all happy.

I experimented. A lot. And now I know I don't need more trials of this kind. I’m writing this today at just the right place from the comfort of my home while it rains outside. While a cold breeze rings music to my senses.

Neither I’m Tesla, who got poor grades in school, nor I’ve grown to invent electric current that powers many electronic devices today. Nor I’m an entrepreneur who is the idea behind the Tesla cars.

Why is porn so addictive?

P.S. What’s your idea of being different? Do you have a different point of view?

"Life is a journey, not a destination. Enjoy the ride." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

C’mon, it’s an opportunity to break the rules, stand out and become ONE of a kind.

Has Messi scored against the Buffon?

Experiments: My life has been a group of experiments that failed to take off until I resorted to writing.

Don’t go to the gym because it’s a fitness fad.

Agree?

Do any members of BTS have significant others in real life? If so, why do they choose not to discuss it publicly?

What if he’d come outside?

Being different is being a mess, yet being okay with it.

You know how all of this enlightenment came to me.

Which is better, a naked picture of some one you know or porn videos?

Being different is being okay with failure, so you know what the dessert of a win tastes like.

You can be fearful and still use it to tame your weaknesses and build your emotional strength.

Long story short, here I am. Being a writer. Doing things I’d always love to do. Sharing my experiences of what I learnt.

Why do some people refuse to explain their actions or behavior when asked? Why do they claim to not know the reason instead of providing an explanation?

A govt. job could do it for me. Plus Money, plus security, plus prestige.

Not ignoring emotions because they can be destructive. Not underestimating your aspirations because society calls them second-rate.

Otherwise, thank you for reading. It was fun writing to you all. Hope it helped you in more ways than one.

Why do we let ugly men exist?

I am an ordinary human being with the same body structure as you who are reading, you and I have the same material of what our bodies and brains are made up of.

Being different is being a weirdo. And being okay about it.

Don’t get a partner because you’re jealous of your friends.

What was your embarrassing moment in front of your father-in-law as an Indian daughter-in-law?

What makes you YOU.

Become different not according to the world, but according to what you like and what you don’t.

Take my word. You won’t regret it.

Doesn't Musk hire Security for his Tesla dealerships?

Honestly, there’s nothing that makes ‘me’ different.

Do anything and everything because you like it. You love it. Do the things that make you go crazy. Things you’d barter your breath for. Things that make your life a rainbow.

Don’t choose to be an engineer just because it pays well.

What is the worst thing your sibling has done?

Not because people show it off and you have to follow the lead.

Anxious to get a job, I chose to do what was socially recommended for me. So, I tried. Being a govt. servant. Failed. A Research Scholar. Didn’t make it. A Professor. Guess what?

Consider a rat who never came out of the hole fearing for his life. He stayed in the dark for years and died one day, unbeknownst.

It is day 42 of the Trump administration. Is the war in Ukraine over? Is inflation solved? Are groceries cheaper?

All of it would have been different, and this life would mean something, at least for him.

Tried everything. A well-paying corporate job, govt. exams. Nothing provided me with security. I didn’t have time to myself. Hustling was my name. Didn’t go to parties, travel or anything. Didn’t talk to friends.

Until the day I choose to listen to myself. I let my subconscious go wherever it wanted me to go. It was not just in dreams I wanted to live, but in real life. Not allowing others to cloud my personality, my ability, my inclination towards philosophy, knack to motivate others, and my indifference towards others’ opinions.

“The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” - Lao Tzu

If you’ve read this far, let me tell you one more thing.

Don’t drink because everybody does today.

To take out these experiments, accept the asymmetry of your emotions, your eccentricities, aspirations and thoughts for what they actually are. Instead of filtering it through the social system, recognize the difference and apply it in your life.

I know being a writer is no different. But my journey is different. Its unique to me.

So, what actually makes us all different?

I have always wanted to write things. Wrote poetry during my grad and reluctantly left it for preparation of a govt. exam because who’s got extra time for it.

Everything has shaped me. Friends who gave me their pens and journals. Best friends I never made. Crush that made me write poems while he didn’t care. Romances I’ve missed. Opportunity to become an editor or a news correspondent I missed. I think all this has made me the writer I am.